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Here, There and Everywhere - Stephanie ReneeApr 6, 2014
Seeking to bring different personal wants and needs in alignment with the professional realm
I am realizing--or, perhaps, admitting--that I have no idea what is truly meant by "having it all."
Unless you are independently wealthy by inheritance, most people have to spend plenty of time working toward their ideal lifestyle. Earning the income they want, surrounding themselves with the amenities and luxuries that are a bonus of that effort, and finding time for the other social outlets and downtime that make the hard work worthwhile. I am fortunate enough to say that I am employed, period, let alone working in an industry and for a company that makes me feel valued and needed. But there are always trade-offs.
I think I am philosophical about this because I have lived on several different angles of the employment diagram. I have had a nice corporate job, doing work that I enjoyed, but with a very limited prospect for promotion and growth. I have been self-employed, having to hustle my talents for every single contract and opportunity, in order to pay my bills and gain experience. And I have been a steady-working creative, mostly in musical theater, where the checks came regularly, even if they were smaller than what I could earn in a more structured environment. But my time was my own, aside from evening performances, and the assignments were joyous.
What is the ideal circumstance for a working, single woman? Money or time?
And is it reasonable for a deep-down-in-her-spirit artsy chick to ever feel 100% authentic in a job with lots of administrative responsibility?
The truth is that there is no one-size-fits-all answer, and what may work for you or me today may require some reevaluation and adjustment in a few years. Long gone are the days when most people coveted an available position and planned for a 25-year stay and a pension. I love that I have friends who are tenured academics who take sabbaticals when they need to write, travel, or pursue a passion outside of the classroom. I have friends who have made complete career transformations in order to find more of the work-life balance that eludes other people who lock themselves in to being wage-earners. And any of us who have the ability to work doing something that we love and earn a decent living at it should count ourselves blessed in these times of union-busting, crappy public education, rapidly rising costs of higher education and corporate greed.
So what does it mean to have it all? I'm not at all sure, but I am committed to getting a few steps closer to the right answer for me in 2014. Walking the walk toward my bliss, while I talk the talk during the week on the air. I really like the sound of that.
Here is last week's playlist:
- No Deposit, No Return - Roy Ayers & Wayne Henderson
- Still Come Back 2 U - Laurnéa
- Freedom's Land - Jhelisa Anderson
- Juice (Know The Ledge) - Eric B & Rakim
- Funkier Than A Mosquito's Tweeter - Nina Simone
- Fairplay - Soul II Soul
- Poppy Girls - The Wiz ST
- Marcus Garvey - Hypnotic Brass Ensemble
- All Around The World - Boyz II Men
- Separate Rooms - Gaelle
- My Pen - Rha Goddess
- Honeysuckle Rose - Fats Waller
- The Big Payback (Tall Black Guy slap-up) - James Brown
- Knock Knock [live on Def Poetry Jam] - Daniel Beaty
- Everything She Wants - Wham!