Boundaries and Thresholds
Nov 18, 2012

Absorbing life lessons and the "advice" of the stars

Hey WURD Family! Have you been feeling under the gun lately? Like words and actions are not matching up somehow? If so, this latest Mercury Retrograde may have something to do with it. I know some of you are skeptics, but I've seen enough evidence in my life to say confidently that you may want to be aware of how the planets can have some effect on the things you are likely to say and do at certain times of the year. One of the ways I've noticed this latest retrograde has manifested itself is the testing of limits: what I'm calling boundaries and thresholds.

In one group, you have the people who don't seem to respect the rules set forth for certain processes or circumstances. They always seem to be looking for loopholes, exemptions, an "out clause" to get around doing things the way they should be done to yield a particular result. Their stature in society, tenure with your organization, or how much they say they love you have somehow earned them a shortcut that they intend to exercise every chance they get. These are the folks who don't respect boundaries.

And then, there are the people who are fully aware that they are exploiting a situation, but think there is even more that their behavior will yield if they remain persistent. They want to score a victory to attain some goal that lies just beyond their perception, regardless of whether or not there is anything more to yield in reality. And you--with your rules, procedures or sometimes your mere presence---are a hindrance to their attainment of "the prize." So they continually test your resolve. They need to know what your threshold is to keep them from whatever it is that they want, and they trust that their determination is stronger than the threshold you've established to maintain the status quo.

If any of this sounds familiar, the one piece of good news is that these pressures should begin to ease up in early December. Mercury will stop being quite so testy and things should begin to get back to normal. But, the one lingering lesson of any retrograde is that if you haven't taken the time to assess the problems and come up with a workable solution, they'll only rear their ugly heads again when the time is right. Don't give them the chance! Make the tough calls, face the demons, solve whatever issues are under your control, and you can move on to more interesting problems in the future. And don't be afraid to stand on the side of what fair, what's right, and letting the chips fall where they may. Often the best call is the clarity of saying NO and meaning it, leaving your boundaries in tact and your threshold below a point that causes you pain.

Here are last week's songs from my playlist:

  • Love Warriors - Tuck & Patti
  • 4evermore - Anthony David ft Algebra & Phonte
  • Can't Look Down - Anthony David
  • Cold Turkey - Anthony David
  • Avalon - Jimmie Lunceford
  • No Le Pegue a la Negra - El Gran Combo de Puerto Rico
  • Caravan - Dinah Washington
  • Spiritual War - Fertile Ground
  • Freedom (Black Bag Mix) - Various Artists
  • No Mirrors In My Nana's House - Sweet Honey In The Rock
  • Where Do We Go - Talib Kweli ft Res
  • 700 Mile Situation - Res